I am a Christian who has been through the journey …

I am a Christian who has been through the journey of divorce, and survived!

As I have looked back over that journey, and reflect on the place I am in today – I can see there is a story to be told. A story that doesn’t get told that often, and certainly less often by those on the Christian path.

I’m not sure exactly how this journey will find its way into the world. Perhaps online or offline. Words on a page or words while gathering. Perhaps that book idea that has been lurking. Perhaps in conversation. This blog is some kind of beginning.

What I want to tell anyone who will listen is not about the darkness, but about the light that came and broke in to that darkness. Not the ‘gory details’ of how I came to the point of divorce, but what happened after the point of no return. What I learned about myself, about God, about love, about grace, about forgiveness – beyond the pain, loss, and confusion. What mistakes have I made? What truths have I encountered?

There is hope!

I married at age 22, found my marriage in pieces at 25 and was divorced by 27, yet I’ve been a Christian all my life, and I intend to keep it that way. That sentence might appear contradictory, but I discovered the hard way that divorce ‘happens’ to Christians too.

We all have questions when faced with such a journey:

What now? What will I do? Where will I go?
What will my friends and church think? What does God think? This is my story, it might be yours, too.

This won’t be fiction; This Journey Out

And it won’t be figuring out how to fix your marriage – if there is any chance, any hope for your existing marriage, then do the work! There are many many books, counselors, and friends who can help you with that. If the path to divorce can be avoided, then do whatever you can to keep your marriage on track – but…

This story is for those who have already crossed the line and have nowhere to go back to.

This is about you, and God. This journey will be a hard, but hopeful one. And God is watching.

It’s time to walk forward, out of the dark and cold, into the light:

It’s time to take This Journey Out.

If you’re a Christian and you’ve been through the journey, or find yourself taking the first steps, I’d love to hear from you. Please post a comment, ask me a question, or just tell me how you think a blog, or book, or conversation like this could be helpful. Or not.

Now happily married at 33, I want to share the hope that you can get through it, and to witness that God is a good and faithful God. And if you go about this journey in a healthy way, and walk with God rather than away from Him, there is much joy, hope and love for your life to come.